Posted 08 December 2011 - 07:44 PM
I think it doesn't matter what you say, kids copy what you do. Therefore it's important to be the best person you are able to be. Maybe I say this defensively, because I find I am not a very directive parent, who doesn't say much.
Also, it's quite complicated as there are many people who grow up in dysfunctional families who reject the dysfunction, and there are many people who grow up in 'functional' families who become dysfunctional.
That's why I think it's about teaching them how to choose the good, and reject the evil. And making them want to do that. This approach means you tailor each child's life education according to their personality and needs.
The fact that when your children are older they will hopefully know how to reject evil and choose good means that God is just in rendering to every man according to his works. In the end, we are all responsible for our life choices. Even a child is known by his doings, and some children are going to float through life and others will constantly kick against the pricks.
At the end of the day, while we direct, we can only hope they make the choices we want them to.
That's why, I conclude, it's better just to have fun being their parent and spending time with them, than trying too hard to make them some preconceived notion of what you view to be the ideal adult.